Kaye has developed the Official Gay Husband Checklist to help women know if their husbands are gay.
In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the gay husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved.īut if you're wondering, "Is my man gay," it might be helpful to know that there are signs to look for, according to Kaye. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of gay husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't reach this place of honesty on their own. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay. The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If a husband is gay, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well. Picture: Getty Images.Sometimes a woman may have been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off " and she may find herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women find this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, M.ED., an expert in women married to gay men, it is estimated that 4 million women have been, or are, married to gay men. "See you in the morning Johnny," I whispered, creeping back down to my room. "Think you might be able to get to sleep now?" I asked him, kissing him and walking to the door. The next half hour was indescribably beautiful for both of us. Any nervousness disappeared, and he kissed me back, and put his arms around me. I reached for his head and gently drew it down, and kissed him. In a split-second, I decided to do something I never thought I would. The lingerie was only taken through utter desperation, he pleaded. He walked straight up to me (he is much taller), and told me that he had dreamed of being with me for years and, at 19, was finally old enough to approach me as a man. I knew bits and pieces had vanished over the years, but would never have imagined the real reason. I couldn't believe it, and was speechless. He said that every time he had ever been over in the past few years he had managed to sneak a piece of lingerie out, and take it home to add to his collection. He couldn't get to sleep, nor could he help himself, he said, and admitted that it wasn't the first time. He stood up and said that he was sorry, but had been fantasising about me for ages, and was going crazy knowing I was just one room away. I was so shocked by this that I stepped inside, closed the door, and asked him what on earth he thought he was doing. He had taken it from the laundry basket next to him. I gently opened the door, and was stunned to see Johnny going through the washing basket! What's more, he had a handful of lingerie (mine). That gave me a shock, as I knew I had not left it on before I went to bed. I crept down the hall, towards the source of the noise, and could see light shining from underneath the laundry door, which was closed. All the bedrooms were quiet, with only the sounds of sleep to be heard. At about 2am, I thought I heard a noise at the other end of the house, so I got up to investigate. I've always known he was attracted to me, but of course I just let it go as a teenage crush. He is a gorgeous 19-year-old guy who I've known since he was little.
My son's teenage mate Johnny was sleeping over one weekend.